Root Cause of Pain

There is a scene in 3 idiots

When rancho’s name is not in list.. at bottom. his friends who have just managed to pass feel bad. When they come to know he has topped the class the feel even bad.

Why?

Because its human tendency to compare himself with others, the progress meter is always running in our minds.

For Example :

1. In gym, he is thinner then me,

2. he got more marks then me.

3.  he got more money then me.

4. His wife is more beautiful then mine.

5. His bike is better then mine.

6. He got one house, i need to have a bigger house.

The list is endless. Even a small nail polish to door mat is compared.

Recently i came to know that this tendency of comparing is encoded in our brains since birth.

I am known to spoil kids by giving them lots of chocolates. My sisters are annoyed by this.

On my sister taught my 2 year nephew not to take chocolates from me, she convinced him that by eating chocolates, he will have stomach ache.

When i offered him chocolate he refused, can you belive it

a 2 year old kid saying no to chocolate. But when in front of him, i offered same chocolate to other kid, he said he also wanted and wanted a bigger one and wanted it first.

Comparison in in our blood. Mind all the times.

This is root cause of 75% of our unhappiness.

Stop comparing and be happy with what we have.  The intel core 2 duo comp of mine is best as it serves its purpuse, the hero honda passion is better then pulsar as it serves its purpose well, the design of this site is better as it  looks good,

Be happy with what we have and never compare.  Just think about yourself, what you need do that, not what others have.

Hope to see you happy next time.